Discernment Counseling

Discernment Counseling

If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to determine if they are solvable.

As a Discernment Counselor, I can help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move towards divorce, or take a time out and decide later. Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship and not sure that regular couples counseling would help. The other is “leaning in” and is interested in rebuilding the marriage.

The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys.

You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with me. Why? Because you are starting out in different places. I will respect your reasons for wanting to divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. I will emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and possible solutions. Even if your marriage ends, understanding your own role will be useful in future relationships.

Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent ones are 1.5 or 2 hours.

Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:
• When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
• When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
• When there is danger of domestic violence


(206) 330-5392     ♦     Dr. Alicia Grace     ♦     alicia@aliciagrace.com